December 06, 2006

The Easy Way Out of Fat Land - Right?

If you listen, even for a moment, to the talk in overweight communities you will almost always hear that gastric bypass weight loss surgery is the “easy way out” of Fat Land. People with weak spirits and good insurance get a lucky break, have their stomachs whacked and stapled and lose weight the easy way. Weight Loss Surgery: seen by pious public to be surgical baptism for the guilty gluttonous slothful.

But those of us who step in the water to be cleansed of our fatty sins know better. Weight loss surgery is NOT the easy way out, a simple dunking of the repentant, the sins atoned, and the price paid, the soul and body healed. We know the atonement is paid every day for the rest of our lives when we set our healthy house in order with gastric bypass.
We understand that WLS is not easy. Why, then, does the public think it’s redemption to weight loss?
First: what the public sees is a rapidly diminishing person recently repaired by gastric bypass. The pounds melt away seemingly in a plain sight. What hides behind the curtain are the ugly demons. Dumping? We don’t talk about it. Vomiting? We don’t tell our regurgitating stories. Head games driving you insane? Who you going to tell? Who is listening? Exercising? Nobody wants to hear about the “E” word. So what the public sees front and center stage is a person consistently succeeding at massive weight loss; a person glowing in their own rebirth and betraying the fat and hopeless around them. How else can it be explained? WLS must be the magic pill, the easy-way-out of obesity hell.
Second: the WLS grass-roots public relations machine tells the public gastric bypass is easy, thus we become our own worst enemy. Tell me if this doesn’t sound familiar: “I can still eat the same things, just less of them! ha ha ha!” or how about, “I lost 145 pounds and never had to do a moments exercise – WLS is fabulous that way – no exercise required.” And so the popular belief perpetuates that fat glutton slobs can lose weight just by eating less of the same foods and never exercising. Brilliant! How easy is that? -Kaye Bailey

Let me tell you what weight loss surgery is really like for me.

I am 3months post-op. Last nights ago I vomited my dinner (BLT roasted chicken salad with balsamic vinegrette) because it was just a bit too greasy for my sensitive stomach. 2 wekks before that I became deathly ill, it’s called dumping, from snacking mindlessly on croutons. Disorientation, hot sweats and then cold chills – dumping – a dire consequence of eating the wrong foods with the malabsorptive system. Last night was like most nights taking a walk on the beach and then walking the dogs . Today like every other day I will spend 45 minutes strength training to maintain my muscle tone, keep my metabolism running high and making damn sure I don’t regain one single pound.
And this is how it will be for the rest of my life. I will vomit, dump, exercise and be vigilant day in and day out if I want this easy weight loss surgery to work for me.
My body does not take weekends off from weight loss surgery. I don’t get chocolate cake just because it’s my birthday. I do not have a double-cheeseburger with fries and a shake just because I’ve had a stressful day and I deserve it. My body is on the gastric-bypass plan 24-7.
Do you think that’s easy?
Weight Loss Surgery post-ops understand what I’m talking about. Many of us go through a phase of fighting the gastric bypass and engage in snacking or grazing. We out-eat the stomach pouch and regain weight and we become self-loathing. We vomit and dump and do it all over again thinking we can somehow trick the body. Eventually we learn and we get it: WLS is for life.
Weight loss surgery pre-op patients want badly to understand this, but the dieting culture has taught us to be strict for X-number days and then we get a free day. The culture has taught us if we can stick to a plan for X-weeks and lose X-pounds then we can “get back to normal”. We are all expert dieters by the time we elect to have gastric bypass surgery.
There is no back to normal after WLS – it is a lifetime lifestyle commitment.


Anonymous said...

Surgery will not help you learn how to maintain your weight-loss. It is a quick fix with issues caused by trying to revert back to the old eating behaviors. It is an easy way out when the dumping and vomiting is brought on by yourself.

Anonymous said...


Way to go girl! I loved this entry. So so so so so true. Keep up the great work - 24/7.


Anonymous said...

Hey Kylie,

What a great talent you have for expressing your thoughts! I am pre-op and am keeping your well-written entry to show to the doubters.


Dawn C said...

Kylie - I have been following your blog and I am so proud of you! Of course, the horse's a$$ that chose to remain anonymous rather than own up to such asinine comments and talk about WLS as a "quick fix" needs to get a clue. Anyone who says that we're not aware that we need to deal with any mental issues that contributed to our issues is insulting and obviously doesn't know that most of us are carefully screened to exclude those that think it is a quick fix. Of course, some fall through the cracks and regain the weight, just as with any diet and exercise intervention. What makes those failures any different than ours? What a moron. I am sorry that losers like that think your blog is the proper place to vent their ridiculous comments. You just keep on keepin' on, and I am looking forward to keeping up with your progress in the months to come. You are a beautiful young lady with your whole life ahead of you to live free of the burden of obesity; I only wish I had made my decision to do this sooner when it was first suggested to me years ago.